Recently I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about things. Yep. Just things.
I’ve never been one to embrace change very well. I like to have a standard of consistency in my life, and if this year has taught me one thing, it’s that you just have to let go. Go with the flow. It’s absolutely not an easy thing to process, I’ve finished University, I’ve found a new job and my friendships and relationships have changed considerably over the past year. Everything that can change, has changed. These are all good things, and I do believe that you have a path that you should follow, and everything happens for a reason. But, mentally, it’s taken it’s toll. I wake up in the mornings fatigued and gloomy and I don’t know whether I’m coming or going. Learning to let go, and in some respects, care a little less has really helped me to deal with day to day life, and achieve my goals.
“One of the happiest moments in life is when you find courage to let go of what you can’t change”
The problem with liking consistency is that there is the tendency to hold on to things for far too long, and this in itself causes a lot of pain and unhappiness. There are a lot of things in life which are beyond our own control, and so it is important to stop focusing on the possible outcomes. We might get the outcome that we want, but we might not. Dwelling on it is a waste of time. I’ve spent so much time over the years wondering why particular people don’t treat me with respect, and I’ve now learnt that I cannot control their level of respect for me. What I can control is the impact and involvement that I allow them to have with my life. I’ve spent a lot of the time dwelling and worrying over what grade I may have got in my degree, but I cannot control that, I could control the amount of work I did, and I did my best. And then it’s time to let go.
I believe that everything and everyone that enters our life does so in order to teach us a lesson or two. When I started University I struggled a lot, but for some reason I decided to stay, and I ended up having some of the best years of my life. I made so many friends and became far more confident as a person. I experienced a house fire and that taught me to appreciate the people that are in your life and live for the moment, because you really never know when that will change. Throwing all of my belongings away was, surprisingly, so easy that I’m much more thoughtful about what I buy now. The more I interact with other people the more I learn about them too. Sometimes we see traits that we don’t like in people and we learn to avoid those in future. We learn not to say certain things, and not to ignore certain red flags.
Where do I go from here? I have a completely fresh start on my hands! First of all, I stop comparing myself to other people, because I’m on my own journey and achieving my own goals. I simultaneously work on the goals that I have written down in my notebook and strive to become a better, stronger person. I stop clinging onto what used to be my life, stop looking at what other people are doing and focus on what my life is and what I’m doing. First things first, I’ve started blogging again and I’m so proud of that!